How often happens that there is no fret in the family. The nit -picks are replaced by constant scandals, and then indifference occurs. The wife complains of her husband – and to see nauseous, and there is no sense from him, in the skirmishes it comes to assault. I would divorce for a long time, but tolerates for the sake of the child, because he needs a father. True, the baby is good when parents are next to him. Or better calm in the house than an eternally displeased father screaming at mom? What is the way out of the situation?
Mom minus dad
Is it worth it, unloved to each other spouses, keep your family for the sake of the child? In such a situation, the answer is unequivocal – not worth. This atmosphere affects everyone, especially children. If spouses cannot live with each other, they painfully communicate even on household topics, then such a relationship should not be left. Everyone suffers in them: both adults and children. Life in hell is the hardest thing for a child, with his vulnerable psyche.
Any baby, even if parents constantly swear, will beg them not to get divorced. After all, he is used to when there is mom and dad. But parents are still connected forever, through their child. And when they part, like a husband and wife, they remain for him like dad and mother. Divorce with a husband or wife is not a reason to refuse to educate the offspring, its content and, of course, love for him. It is important to build a relationship so as to participate in his life always.
Divorce is burdened by the fact that often parents diverge at the stage when hatred has increased so much that they cannot see each other. And, breaking the connection, do not maintain any relationship. Mom does not give a “former” to see her son or daughter. A child becomes a tool for revenge to her husband. Dita absorbs everything like a sponge. If he does not see a model of happy relationships, then there is a danger that his relationship, in the future, will build according to the same painful scheme.
It seems that it is better to create the visibility of the family so that the child has an example. In fact, this is not the case. If the family turns into a kind of paradise, then in adult life the baby will only have hell.
Listen to yourself
But if the parents divorce, and he will not have any model before his eyes? Then that, the child can not play anything at all? Divorce is not the end of life, so you should not save a family for a child. Parents have a chance to meet new love and build other, much better relationships without making previous mistakes. Your child will be able to see a completely different example and then he will have an opportunity. A kid, seeing a happy mother who feels love, calmness, respect and joy in the family, will also be happy.
In fact, many parents do not live together for the sake of the child. Hiding behind the offspring, they live for themselves, justifying their egoism. He feels this because the responsibility for what is happening, they dump him. In this case, the child is like a screen. For the delicate soul of the baby, this is a heavy load. It may not be worth a cunning and admit to yourself that you are afraid of loneliness, so easier and more comfortable, I do not want cardinal changes in life, etc. D.?
And if so, then you should look for the points of contact with an unloved person. Maybe it makes sense to discard all the bad and try to improve relations? If people live with each other for the sake of a child, then they are in the role of a victim. And such a position is a dead end, a path that does not give anywhere. This is also a way of destroying relationships with the child. Because he will grow up, and his mother can begin to demand the same victim from him “for her”, for any reason. In fact, if the parents did everything for the sake of their child, then before the situation with the divorce of the spouses it simply would not reach.
It must be understood that the responsibility lies only with her husband and wife. The offspring is not related to adult actions, but feels good. If dad changes his mother, Dite, seeing the heated atmosphere of the house, begins to study poorly, get sick, conflict with everyone. It is worth thinking, first of all, about the child, and not about his egoism. And maybe you should think about improving relationships not for the sake of a child, but for yourself. [Embeded Content] When a gap for the good
Do not cling to destructive relationships and maintain a family even for the sake of a child, in one case. If the husband raises his hand, suffers from bad habits and dependencies and is not going to change anything. Moms suffer beatings, often hiding behind children, not only in a figurative, but also literally. Soul and physical injuries bring a strong imprint on the psyche of your child. Such relationships need to either improve or part forever. Standing categorically, especially for the sake of children. After all, the unfortunate parents are unhappy children.