How often do we hear: “Why does he (she) do not understand me?”,” Where are the relations that were at the beginning?”. And what is being done to continue romance, surprises? Over time, everything starts to itself. Psychologists, family psychoanalysts come to the aid of such couples.
The work of a psychologist is paired. It is important to understand the causes of cooling, removal from each other. After all, everyone sees the reason in his own way. And to talk and most importantly hear each other is not easy.
Women often complain of lack of attention, compliments. And herself constantly at home in a dressing gown, in curlers, without makeup, she grins and is not happy with everyone. What prevents your husband from work (if you return earlier from work or sit at home) with a smile, a kiss, replacing an old bathrobe with a light sundress. Feed a delicious dinner, not semi -finished products. Praise her husband for his work on the house without sarcasm and irony, do not advise until he himself asks (sometimes he just needs to speak out). After all, a man, as a child, needs caressing, encouragement, compliment. And by analogy with children’s behavior, he will begin to project the behavior on you. The main thing is not to praise, otherwise it will not understand or light up.
From the side of the man there are also oversights. Excessive criticism, extra comparison with mother (not in favor of his wife), not participating in the household. It is not so difficult to answer a smile with a smile, say thanks for dinner, listen to after a working day, give a flower not for the holiday, but just like that, because it is nearby. If you do not want to contact specialists, you can undergo testing. Moreover, they are now a wide variety and on various topics. For example: “What are the spouses flaws?”,” Do you know how to control yourself?”,” Who is to blame for the conflict?”,” Are you created for each other?”,” How do your family relations develop?”And many other topics. As a result, after watching the answers, comparing them among themselves, identify all the pros and cons. You can analyze your behavior. And already jointly discuss who is right who is to blame, what is the reason for the conflict and where to look for his decision.
It is important to remember that stable relations are built on mutual respect, trust. Feel free to talk, discuss problems, ask what worries you and what you did not understand, what you doubted. After all, for this we can talk. Try not to deceive each other. Even the smallest, insignificant lie sooner or later will become a reality. What will lead you to the next scandal. No matter how difficult it is to tell the truth, it is still better than constantly deceiving. After all, not for this you created your pair, built a relationship. Do not shift the solution to the problems that have arisen to each other, learn to discuss and negotiate. You can’t do without a serious conversation if your goal is to maintain a relationship. Correctly and specifically formulate what your union is based on, what has brought you closer then, which interferes now. Your task is to understand and forgive each other and try to resume the atmosphere of love with which it all began.
Try to update your life. If there is no way to go somewhere together, you can just take a walk in the park, in the square in the evening, schedule each other after work. Go to the cinema spontaneously. And no matter what the film is there, it is important that you love together.
Man and woman – eternal dilemma. Everyone tries to understand the other, but rarely anyone succeeds. To figure it out, you need to change the location, but alas, this is impossible. That is why female psychology through the eyes of men is very often erroneous or does not display a complete picture. That is why everyone is still arguing and cannot find an exact solution.